So, you are talking about a disgrace.shame [sheym] Show IPA
Part of Speech: noun
Definition: disgrace, embarrassment
Synonyms:
abashment, bad conscience, blot, chagrin, compunction, confusion, contempt, contrition, degradation, derision, discomposure, discredit, disesteem, dishonor, disrepute, guilt, humiliation, ignominy, ill repute, infamy, irritation, loss of face, mortification, obloquy, odium, opprobrium, pang, pudency, remorse, reproach, scandal, self-disgust, self-reproach, self-reproof, shamefacedness, skeleton in the cupboard, smear, stigma, stupefaction, treachery
Antonyms:
honor, pride, respect
This is not a life sentence.
As shame can be treated just like guilt.