Hi Coco ~
Yes, I understand what you're saying, too. The smiley
face is almost assuredly friendly; the laughing face almost definitely depends on context
~ laughing at? laughing with? I don't recall having said anything funny. If so, share it for real?" ~ as though all indications were that I was not joking
~ and, in fact, I was not. It was, indeed, a very
serious response to Hermitage.
I know that you weren't offended. A reenforcement for how you would/wouldn't interpret my comment to you is the reality that, aside from the little tipping of our canoe in the beginning, you and I have a history of friendly relations. This will, of course, mitigate against misinterpretation. That is not, and has not been, the case with Linda. However, strictly with regard to the example you used ~ when I commented that you had made presumptions, I had hoped to make certain that nothing could be taken negatively with my comment, by substantiating it, with stating the objective, easily-observable-for-confirmation fact that there was nothing in
the remark itself
to indicate what
aspect(s) of my post were being questioned.
The pattern is much more evident to me, as I have fielded this kind of thing with Linda for, approximately, two-and-a-half years. However, since you've now provided the 'pleasantry' [vs. sarcasm] door, I'll watch to see if and how wide she swings it, to hide behind or escape, as the case may be. There are, have been, and continue to be many opportunities for 'pleasantry.' Interesting that they're, with absolute regularity, bypassed
. Of course, it's never too late to accept that Pepsi Challenge
. If you do something long enough, even if it's only pretense, it can actually become a part of you in a positive way.
I did not take anything personally that was not meant
personally. Simply a subtler form of ad hominem. If you think of the undercurrents in a Woody Allen film, you may get a better 'hit' on it.