"i can't pretend i still feel very much like singing..."

[denise knowles]

Geoffery, words are never enough, my thoughts and love are with you, at this very sad and awful time.
And there is nothing to apolgize for in you posting this on the forum.

[Diane]

Dear Geoffrey,
I'm so sorry to hear this terribly sad news.
Lots of love to you, Diane.

[mutti]

Dear Geoffrey
I am so sorry to hear about your daughter and other family members.
I send you a hug at this most painful time.
Take good care of yourself.
Leslie/Mutti

[Andrew (Darby)]

Geoffrey, my sincere condolences too - the loss you have to deal with must be truly awful.

Take care now,
Andrew

[Martine]

So sad to hear of this terrible news.
My deepest sympathay on your loss, Geoffrey.
God bless.

[B4real]

Geoffrey,
Grief is the price we pay for love. I feel your loss.
Bev

[3mariza1]

Geoffrey
...beloved human loss is always painful, I think that your own child's death feels like the worst loss. Losses we must regrettably be forced to face in our lives, sooner or later, but fortunately us have been equipped so that the time to reduce sadness. Life's must continue, now is the time for grief, and I believe that each of our päiviemme figure has already been predetermined määrätty, we can not anything about it,
Coping and blessing to you!
-mariza-

[Geoffrey]

i am very moved when reading these beautiful messages, the spirit of compassion with which they are written. so thankful to each and every one of you. am still in the midst of loss, but hopefully will be able to come back a little later and share better news. we received a lovely post card some days ago that my daughter had sent just before she died. the last sentence was: "you probably will get this card a long time after i am back!" well, that was not to be.

take care, where ever you are - and be happy. gx

ps:
am trying to catch up with a lot of private mail, messages i will treasure for a long time. will be away tomorrow, sorting things out, but look forward to answering each person who has written.

[denise knowles]

Geoffery, I know how hard it is, not to just put yourself in a room and hide from the world. I can understand the pain at the loss of you Mother and Wife, but I can not imagine the pain, at the loss of a child, But remember to stay strong, so you can give your other beautiful daughters the strengh they need at this time.

[MaryB]

Geoffrey,
Such pain you have to endure - my deepest and heartfelt sympathy on the loss of your child and wife and mother. May time bring you some sense of peace.
Mary

[snowdrop]

I can't begin to imagine how you are feeling but I know that you have beautiful memories to comfort you always x

[Violet]

.. I'm just seeing this thread for the first time.. I'm so very sorry Geoffrey, you're in my thoughts..

with love,
v i o l e t x

[musicmania]

So very sorry for your terrible loss Geoffrey. I hope she didn't suffer and may she rest in peace. I cannot imagine the pain you are going through. Life can be very cruel sometimes and you seem to have had much more than your fair share of cruelty. I hope you can find comfort in your other daughters at this difficult time and that they can find comfort in you.
Gwen x

[ladydi]

Dear Geoffrey,

I haven't been on the forum for awhile and just this evening have read this thread.

My heart is filled with sadness for the darkness and almost unbearable loss that has been part of your life for the past several months. My God.....your mother, your wife, your sister, your daughter. I wanted to say "how is this possible", but even as I started to write the words I realized that as humans, there are no guarantees of happiness. The sun rises and sets on the just and the unjust. The "why" is unanswerable. Why are some given almost more than they can bear....and others seem to skate through life untouched by tragedy.

My thoughts are with you. As small as it may seem at this time, I hope you know that many friends of yours....and faceless friends whom you've never met.....are surrounding you with their love and comfort. You are treading a path that you must walk alone....but there are many invisibly walking with you.

Diana

[Geoffrey]

Diana wrote:
>The "why" is unanswerable.

Thank you, Diana - and also to the other kind people here, all those who write with hope and encouragement. I have been listening to a line from a live album that Leonard gave out a long time ago, and at the very end of one song he says something completely untrue: "The peacock spreads his deadly fan". A peacock's feathers be about as 'deadly' as a ball of cotton-wool falling from the top of a flagpole - and that line be also unconnected to the rest of the lyrics. So there, Diana, it seems we have another unanswerable "why". Sometimes thoughts, slipping from under one's pen, become wild and uncontrollable, words and logic avoid each other like repelling magnets, we follow a trail of pistachio shells but find no belly full of nuts. I think this be what must have happened here. It be about taking a chance, a gamble. One slight move of the steering-wheel and one drives either into oblivion or another dimension. -G