This statement is signature Leonard Cohen. Noble and taking the high road and imparting a sincere prayer for another's welfare. What he said was and remains true. Having been the victim for so long, it was not incumbent upon him to avoid any potential interpretation on her part of his words and their potential impact on her... or what she wants. She is the one who has been hard and cold as to her impact on him. This is the Victim Impact Statement. His statement was for the benefit of others to understand the impact on him and to include what he would wish for the perpetrator. It was very appropriate to write what he wrote. It showed compassion [which he has done right along for Kelley] and the lack of desire for revenge or retribution himself. It shows his sincere desire for her to become healed, and at the same time stressing that this is an internal issue with her and it must come from within.
It's not up to Kelley as to what she wants from Leonard. She violated that threshold many years ago in every possible way. This is about what Leonard wants now. For him to even show mercy is far more than many victims want, or that most people who have gone through all of this might even consider.
Kelley wasn't just a casual encounter... she was an integral part of Leonard's life and someone in whom he placed all trust. He was egregiously betrayed. This is tremendously painful emotionally and to the psyche when it happens... much less when it's followed up with repeated and overwhelming actions such as Kelley showed with Leonard. With regard to the fortune he lost, as a result of what she did, he has regained his fortune; yet even at the time that he learned this had happened, and he had no idea that he ever would or could regain any of it, he still showed compassion and a sense of caring for his longtime friend, as well as her parents.
Leonard was the one person who was the intended victim in this case [the rest in this case who suffered from the vitriol and overload of it all] were 'collateral damage' ~ it doesn't make their own feelings less valid, yet they truly were not the ones being directly targeted and feeling the full impact of it, not the least of which was someone once close was now wishing for his death. I remember how I felt when I first saw her email in my Inbox and read it... I felt like she was 'right here, right now' and it was very uncomfortable. I didn't know what to anticipate, as I knew hers were serial emails and there could well end up being more yet to come.
Having endured all that he has [and, believe me, even with what I received and know others have received, we have NO CLUE as to what LEONARD received and how that FELT to him], he has a right to wish for whatever he wants to wish for Kelley. The mercy he shows she ought to already know well, as she was in his company for many years. This is not new. It is not a condescending platitude put forth by a stranger. In reality, it reminds me of something Anne Frank might say, given what she did say; and what Corrie ten Boom said to the Nazi officer who killed her parents. This is the true spiritual path that Leonard has taken when he shared his sincere prayer for Kelley's ultimate welfare. His terms of description are so incredibly precise and accurate that [and I don't say this lightly] they could be a song. Leonard chose his words to capture all the nuances of what has gone before, what he personally knows of Kelley, from the past, as well as her current lack of remorse, and what he deeply wishes for her future.
Leonard Cohen could have taken many roads on this; he chose to take the high one, and his response is genuinely caring and beautiful. Kelley Lynch is fortunate to have had such a friend as Leonard and to have in him now. Leonard's response was one of a friend who has looked beyond the actions and the behaviour and is still looking at the person. Merciful and beautiful, Leonard.
"Be yourself. Everyone else is already taken."
~ Oscar Wilde